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Church and Christian Community by Jeff Goins on 1/8/2009
A few amazing things happened to me last year. First of all, my
facebook friend list hit the 1000+ mark. Yeah, silly, I know, but celebrate small victories right? Secondly, I raised over $1000 to help a
woman with cancer just through my blog and a few simple emails.

After that, I began to think that having 1000 friends on facebook was more consequential than I had thought. So, I came up with a
great idea about using blogs to raise money for a charitable cause. In the course of a month, nearly $30,000 was donated. It was amazing. After that, I was encouraged to consider my online life (and my 1000 facebook friends) as part of my real life, instead of segmenting "online" and "offline" interactions into two diametrical sectors.
Recently, I reconnected with a friend from summer camp online that I hadn't talked to in years. We shared
New Year's Resolutions and encouraged each other in what God was doing in our lives. I also got to talk with a woman from
my church via facebook chat that I haven't really taken the time to get to know. She shared some pretty personal stuff, and it was an honor to listen to her heart. She also ended up supporting me, just because of a brief online conversation. On top of that, I found out that a couple in our church had met through an online dating service! (I was amazed, because there was nothing creepy about them as individuals or as a couple, which just blew my mind.)
I wondered if this was all new, or if community had been happening around me, and I was just getting tuned into this reality. I began to ask myself: "Can online community really exist?" I started looking back at some old blog comments and was surprised to see what a difference this little blog had made in people's lives. One reader said:
Thanks, Jeff for your
blogs and your heart for people and especially the poor. I know I never comment
but I am always either challenged or encouraged and many times both by
your posts. Also, thanks to you I was introduced to Jon Foreman, whose
music and lyrics are incredible. So thanks. Grace and Peace.
Because of my blog, I've met people for coffee and had amazing in-person exchanges that I never would have had. One of my very close friends here in Nashville found me because she Googled "
the poor of Nashville" and found a
blog post I had written. I actually just had coffee with her yesterday. We would have never met if it weren't for this blog.
It seems that there used to be a certain stigma attached to online interactions and so-called "communities" on the web. A couple years ago, I was a strong critic of facebook, myspace, and even the blogosphere. I thought that it was a poor substitute for
real community. I didn't think that you could have real relationships on the internet (you know, other than that
eHarmony stuff).
I was wrong. I hope my 1000 facebook friends can forgive me.
For other blogs on this topic, check out what other bloggers are discussing in regards to community and technology (if you'd like to get in on this, just post a blog on this topic with the following list of links, and email me):
Even more interesting, there are people in the same church as me that I have never really spent much time with, but via Facebook and my blog, we have got to know each other far more deeply than we ever have on a Sunday and the depth of our fellowship when we meet now is extraordinary compared with what it used to be.
Conversely, my friend who runs an office recently called everyone together and forbade them from emailing the person on the next desk rather than getting up and walking over to them for a conversation! He has had to teach his youngest workers, who have grown up with e-community, how to do it face to face too. They were not at all confident if it wasn't a text message or an email!
I love the blend of the two. There are riches to be had wherever you look. Few people write letters anymore (I do though, but then I'm old!!) but many people email instead. While communication is happening, relationship always has a good chance to grow. And I say God bless it!
I've had fun reconnecting with friends on facebook from the past and even found one of my best friends from 5th grade a few days ago! How cool is THAT?!? We've not been in touch for over 20 years.
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