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Faith Issues by Jeff Goins on 1/14/2009
I had never met a
gypsy before I moved to Spain.
Gitanos was the word we learned to call them in our University classes, but
vagabundos was what my host mom called them. Vagabonds. I just never felt right about that, even if they did assault you on the street for spare change.

It wasn't that gypsies were just poor Spanish folk. No, they were a different ethnic group altogether. Many were Moroccan immigrants, and others were some strange mix of Arab and Spaniard. They didn't speak Spanish - at least, no Spanish I had ever learned. They rattled off curses at you in a bizarre dialect that none of Spanish classes had prepared me for (note to the reader: it's called
Romani).
The
gypsies of southern Spain reminded me of Mickey O'Neill (Brad Pitt's character) and the other Irish Pikeys in the movie
Snatch. O'Neill's relationship to his other fellow Irishmen was a lot like how I saw Spaniards interacting with the
gitanos. They didn't understand them, and mostly kept their distance.
I was told that the gypsies lived on the outskirts of Seville and, apart from begging on the streets outside of cathedrals, didn't have much to do with the majority population. They were the kind of people that the travel agencies
warned you about. However, every Saturday, they would open up their camp to the public, setting up tables and tents full of handmade clothes, pirated DVDs, and other affordable goods to sell. The same Sevillians that judged them the other six days of the week would flock to the gypsy camp and go from tent to tent, purchasing exotic-looking scarves and jewelry cases.
Honestly, I didn't know what to think of the gypsies. One day, I was curiously checking out a Catholic mass (a new and exotic sight in itself to my Presbyterian eyes), and as I was exiting, a gypsy woman stopped me. She uttered a few words that I couldn't understand and then pointed my attention to a cardboard sign she had written in broken Spanish that said something about giving alms to the poor and concluded with a "Dios le bendiga" (God bless you).
I panicked. Since I hadn't figured out what to make of the gypsies yet and was being put on the spot, I did what many might do - I reacted out of fear. I threw a Euro in the box and scurried away. And then I heard it - the voice that would change how I viewed
Spanish gypsies,
Mexican-American immigrants, and even the
local poor in Nashville:
"You know, Jeff, the most valuable thing you can give these people is your time." The words were so heavy on my soul, I was worried that I might fall down as I fled in fear from the gypsy woman. The voice was God's voice, of course, and I'll never forget it. Admittedly, I didn't go back to see that woman. I wish I had, but I didn't. I was still pretty scared.
And the next time I came across someone who was different from me - this time a wandering vagrant from Germany - I was, again, pretty scared. And once again, I walked on, ignoring him. But I heard that familiar voice, the same one that had told me to give my time to people that were different from me. And I turned back, but that is a whole other
story.
I've never regretted giving my time to people that were different from me, whether they be homeless, drunk, dying of AIDS, uneducated, helpless, black, hispanic, or even gypsy.
Other Synchro-bloggers (feel free to cut and paste this and join the discussion!):
In Portland, I met the Gypsies. They are likeable folk, and the years between childhood and manhood having passed through the marches of Hippiedom, for me there was no strangeness in dealing with or seeing them. They have a local hierarchy. The "king of the Gypsies" lives on a large suburban estate on the east side of town in a rambling ranch house surrounded by immaculate white corral fencing, and there are cast lions on either side of the driveway entrance (which I think is gated). My godmother, who is a real estate professional, knows the king (or knew him, I heard he recently passed away, and I'm not sure who his successor is), and many other gypsies. They tend to interface more with our women than with us men, except in the case of an incident I will now relate.
One day a late middle aged gypsy gentleman waltzed into Aghia Trias church after liturgy had started, like most of us do. He was wearing a floppy hat hung with pins, had on a nice Gypsy sport jacket with a clutch of numerous heavy occult and Christian trinkets and baubles suspended against his chest between its lapels. He came right down the middle aisle, which none of us would do, and found a seat right in the center of the sanctuary, grinning broadly as he looked about him in an outgoing fashion.
Commtime finally came around, and I wondered what he would do. As the usher invited the people in his pew to enter the commline that forms in center aisle, surprisingly he left his place and stepped right in line, grinning and flirting with the children and babies like a clown. I was far enough back to where I never even got into the line while he approached Fr Elias (may his memory be eternal) holding the commCup and spoon.
As the Gypsy came face to face with Fr Elias, there was a distinct pause, and you could see that Fr Elias was questioning him. (Commis only for the Orthodox, and a stranger has to identify himself to the priest in order to receive communion.) After the brief interruption, Fr Elias gave the Gypsy communion, and the man walked off, forgetting to pick up a chunk of antidoron (the bread of fellowship which we all take after receiving communion) as he walked back. Smiling now more broadly than ever, and even chortling audibly to himself as he flashed happy eyes at everyone he passed on the side aisle, he finally came to the row that I was in, though I was standing in the middle, not the end, of the pew. At the end, however, was standing a very handsome Greek-American man groomed and dressed in Country Western fashion, complete with gleaming cowboy boots, someone whom I knew slightly, but a very private kind of guy a little older than me. As the Gypsy came up to him, he suddenly turned aside toward my friend, grabbed him in an irresistible bear hug, and planted a big, luscious kiss on his cheek, let him go briefly, gave him a mighty friendly handshake, and then continued on his way down the side aisle, and out the door.
I looked back over my shoulder to see where he went. Still smiling and congratulating the people standing around in the narthex by brusquely shaking their hands, he passed out of view, and out the door. He never did take off his hat.
Like you, I can't think of one time that I have regretted giving time to someone different than me...and often I have found out that they really aren't that different than me after all.
Keep up the good work (on the blog and out there in the world).
Fun to stumble on to your blog. My husband's an EPC pastor in Louisiana. I'm actually researching the Gitanos for an (eventual)mid-grade novel (for 10-14 year olds).
I had an interesting experience in Pamplona in 1988. I was there for San Fermin and was amazed to see the Gitanos, usually ignored, on equal footing with everyone that day. I'm sure the celebratory spirit of the day (not to mention the ever-flowing vino) was a part of this. Still, it was as if, for a moment, people were accepted at face value. It is something I'll never forget.
All the best,
Caroline
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